Telling us that we can try again IS NOT COMFORTING.
Telling us that we’re still young IS NOT COMFORTING.
Saying “Oh this was just a practice run!” IS INCONSIDERATE AND RUDE.
It is best to say “I’m so sorry” and be a listening ear or crying shoulder. Really, there is nothing else you can do.* Don’t tell me I can try again, or “next time give you should try giving up caffeine” (I did that, jerk), or “Such-and-such is a known cause for miscarriage!” Those are all JERKY THINGS TO SAY and give no comfort; they only make me wish I could punch you or scream “shut up!” at the top of my lungs.
Just say “I’m so sorry” and stop talking before your foot finds its way into your mouth.
*Although, I will say, I got a couple of really thoughtful notes and cards from friends, and one very dear friend who lives out of state sent us a Dean & Delucca chicken pot pie, which was very sweet and thoughtful…Plus it arrived on one of those bad days, and it was so wonderful to not have to cook that night.
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